WHET & REPEAT Parenting – from Craig Jutila Blog

19 09 2012

Do you ever feel like a broken record…wait…a broken CD? Never mind, that illustration can be lost on a generation or two. Let me put it this way, have you ever felt like you have to keep repeating yourself to your children to either get them to listen or get them to do something? Well, as it turns out, it’s our job. Here’s an example all parents may be able to relate to. “Hey everyone, we’re leaving now. Please turn off all the lights. Thank you.” Then, when you return home the lights that were “turned off” miraculously resurrected to “on” again. So, as parents we find ourselves saying, “Can you please turn off the lights, turn off the lights, turn off the lights, turn off the lights…

The reminders may be different in your home. But they are reminders none the less. It could be “take out the trash, take out the trash, take out the trash or turn off the video game, turn off the video game, turn off the video game.” Whatever it may be we have all had these conversations…repeatedly. As it turns out, it’s our parental responsibility and it goes way beyond the illustrations I just gave you. We find this responsibility in the verses we have all come to know in Deuteronomy chapter 6:5-7.

And you must love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands that I am giving you today. Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are on the road, when you are going to bed and when you are getting up. Deuteronomy 6:5-7 NLT

Depending on your translation the word “repeat” can also be “teach” or “impress” but most translate it “repeat.” Now the word repeat, uhhh, means continual, frequent, again and again. To belabor the point, hammer home, beat a dead horse into the ground. You get the idea. What you may not know is that word repeat means to “whet.”

No, not “Wet” but “Whet.” To whet means to sharpen any instrument, usually a knife, which is done by repeated friction or grinding. Does that sound parentally familiar? Our kids don’t learn or make healthy change or choices by saying or modeling something to them once. How nice would that be? It’s a constant reminder. One pass of a knife’s blade over the sharpening stone doesn’t make it sharp. You must repeatedly run the blade with consistent even pressure across the sharpening stone. The repeated passing of the blade over the stone makes the knife or tool sharp. So as you sharpen this week here are a few reminders from, of all places, a book on how to sharpen a knife. As it turns out they’re pretty good principles for sharpening our kids as well.

1. Completely Follow Through (Don’t Stop Half Way)
2. Continue The Process (Not Just One Pass Over The Sharpening Stone)
3. Consistent and Even Pressure (Avoid Extremes While Sharpening)





Part of God’s Story…

16 04 2012

Been reading this book called “Spiritual Parenting” by Michelle Anthony. I has been a great book in helping me think through help parents to be their child’s spiritual leader.

The chapter I was reading last night was on God’s Big Story. It summarized the redemptive story of God from creation to Christ riding in on the white horse. It made me really process how I look at the Bible. The Bible is not something from the past. The Bible is not an old history book. The Bible is a living book of God’s redemptive story, it is not finished yet, the end has not been finished. What’s cool is the fact that I am a part of the redemptive story. Until Christ comes back, I get to play a part in His story.

When I accepted Christ as my personal Savior I was written into the story. Each time I share my faith and someone comes to believe in Jesus Christ, what He did for them, I and them are a part of God’s redemptive story. Every day that I serve in ministry, I am written into the Big God Story!

The Bible is not a book of the past, it is a living book that is still alive today awaiting you to live it and be a part of it.

I want to challenge you to help your children to look at the Bible as a book that is still being written and they are a part of it.

Parents, if you would like to read a great book pick up “Spiritual Parenting” by Michelle Anthony.

Now go make an impact in your child’s life!





Good Friday…

7 04 2012

Parents, today was good Friday. A day that some say we shouldn’t celebrate but I think I would disagree. Without good Friday, the day Christ died on the cross, we would have nothing to celebrate for Easter Sunday. Easter Sunday, the day Christ was raised from the dead. The day that Christ beat death, so now we can be raised from our dead state when we believe in Him.
I want to encourage you to not hide Good Friday from you kids so they can understand the punishment for our sin. The punishment that Christ took on Himself. He took our sin so we wouldn’t have to. Without the Christ taking our sin, there would be no hope for us. We would be eternally separated forever from God.
Celebrate the gift that God gave us with your child this Sunday. But without Friday, there would be no Easter Sunday.
I pray you have a great Easter with your family. I pray you will have the opportunity to share the truth of God’s Son with your children if they have not accepted Him as their Personal Savior.
Happy Easter!





This weekend and heading to the Super Start Event for Preteens…

21 02 2012

Parents and Followers, I am super excited about taking 10 of our preteens to an event called Super Start. We are headed to Tulsa OK for this short PreTeen Conference.

Below is the lesson scope for the weekend. Please pray for the kids who are attending and the adults who are leading.

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“What am I made for?” It’s a question that’s on every preteen’s mind. As they sit in classrooms every day and in front of media each night, preteens are constantly bombarded with the idea of being important and successful. Couple that with their becoming more aware of themselves as individuals and it’s no wonder why “purpose” is on their minds. Even though they may never verbally ask the words “what is my purpose”, the question is seen in their actions. It’s seen in the eleven year old boy who is trying hard to be the best athlete on his team or from the ten year old girl who studies diligently to maintain straight A’s. It’s seen in the twelve year old girl who puts too high a priority on her friendships and in the eleven year old boy who moves from project to project discovering new skills. For each, the focus is on determining what they are good at, but that focus is fueled by the desire God has given them to search and discover what they were made to do.

Session 1 – God Made Me to be All About Him
“What were they made for?” For what purpose are their lives to be about? These questions cannot be answered through the athletics, academics, and talents they are searching in. It can only be answered by the one who created them. In his book, The Purpose Driven Life, Pastor Rick Warren explains “If I handed you an invention you had never seen before, you wouldn’t know its purpose, and the invention  itself wouldn’t be able to tell you either. Only the creator or the owner’s manual could reveal its
purpose”. So the search to discover what we were made for can only be answered by God and through his word.
We read in Colossians 1:16 “For in him all things were created: things in heaven and earth, visible and invisible…all things have been created through him and for him”. In Romans 11:36 the Bible tells us that “from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be the glory forever”. In both verses the apostle Paul not only reveals that God is our creator but also His purpose for our lives. God created us for Himself, to be with Him and to be, quite literally, all about Him. God himself says through Jeremiah 32:38-39 that “they will be my people, and I will be their God. And I will give them one heart and one purpose: to worship me forever, for their own good and for the good of all their descendants”. Since God created us with the specific purpose of being about Him, it stands to reason that living for that purpose
is what is best for us. It’s what keeps our lives satisfied, content, and rewarded throughout eternity. Imagine a plasma TV trying to be a bowling ball. It wouldn’t work because a TV wasn’t made to roll down a bowling alley and knock over pins. Any attempt a TV makes to do those things will not only lead to aggravation and defeat, but it will also leave the TV in ruin. The same thing happens when we try to live for the purpose of something other than God. George Barna, the author of Transforming  children into Spiritual Champions says “When you try to be something that God did not make you to be, you can count on a life of frustration, dissatisfaction, and failure”. To put it simply, living for the purpose of something other than God doesn’t work!

Session 2 – God Saved Me to be All About Him
Even though living for the purpose of something other than God doesn’t work, that is exactly what we as human beings naturally do. Jeremiah 2:13 says “My people have committed two sins: they have forsaken me, the spring of living waters, and dug their own cisterns, broken cisterns that cannot hold water”. We, the creations, naturally tend to abandon what our creator made us for (to be all about Him) and try to fulfill that purpose through other things. Things we were not made for, things that don’t work, things like – ourselves. Jeremiah calls this sin. The Bible is clear that sin in our lives leads to death and separation from God, which in turn keeps us from fulfilling our purpose – being with Him and about Him for now and eternity. So left to ourselves, we cannot fulfill our purpose. We are like lamps with severed power chords and therefore, have no way to shine.  
But we have a gracious and loving God, who does not leave us to ourselves. Ephesians 1:4-7 says “For he chose us in him before the creation of the world to be holy and blameless in his sight. In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, in accordance with his pleasure and will – to the praise of his glorious grace, which he has freely given us in the One he loves. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace.”
From the very beginning God loved and designed us each to be delivered from our sin through His son Jesus. The sin (our failure to live for the purpose of God) that separated us and kept us from fulfilling our purpose is now gone because of the grace of our Father and the death and resurrection of His Son. This redemption through Christ re-opens the opportunity for us to once again fulfill our purpose and now gives us reason to do so. “For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. And he died for all that those who live no longer love for themselves but for him who died and was raised again.” – 2 Corinthians 5:14-15

Session 3 – God Gave Me What I Have to be All About Him
So what does it look like to fulfill the purpose that Jesus’ blood has made possible? What does a life with the purpose of “being all about God” look like? Does it mean we have to throw away anything and everything that isn’t God? No, because even those things were given to us by God to be used for Him.
Paul sums it up best in Colossians 3:17 when he says, “And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.” Now that we understand our purpose and how Christ connected us to that purpose we live it out by doing everything in His name. We take those things that we were so focused on before and repurpose them for God. So instead of getting rid of athletics, we now use athletics for the glory of God. Instead of throwing out all relationships, we now use those relationships to help others know about Him. Everything we do, we do in the name of the Lord Jesus.





Live it!

27 01 2012

No written word
    nor spoken plea
Can teach our youth
    what they should be
Not all the books
    on all the shelves
It’s what the teachers
    are themselves.
Author unknown

Found this poem in a leadership book I was reading. It reinforces the principle that I think every teacher, leader and parent should live by. If you want the person you are influencing to get the lesson you are trying to teach, you better be living it. Do not ask or teach someone to do something if you are not willing and living it now.

Love Paul’s words in 1 Cor 11:1, “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ.” Parents, if you want your children to Own/Believe what you believe in, then live it. Follow Christ so your children will follow your example of Him.

Leaders, Live It. If you want the people you lead to be passionate about what they are doing, then be passionate about what you are doing. If you want people to arrive and time and prepared, you arrive on time and prepared. When a situation arises, the way you either react or respond will determine how your people will. Live the example. Your example should be Christ.

Well, have a great day!

DaveR





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Fuel Mileage and the New Year…

23 12 2011

Fuel Mileage…

Ever since a trip with my family to South Dakota around 2001, I have been overwhelmed with the idea that I have to get maximum fuel mileage out of my vehicles. My father always kept track of his fuel mileage. It was his way of seeing if something was going wrong within the engine of the car. If fuel mileage started to drop then it was a heads up that something was out of tune or about to fail. The car needed attention.

Well in 2001, my wife and I purchased a 1999 Jeep Cherokee Classic. My wife’s family and my family decided we were going to take a trip to the Black Hills of South Dakota. It was a beautiful trip. Before we left for the trip, Geary Beth’s father asked me the question that changed my perspective on my vehicles for the rest of my life. He asked, “What kind of fuel mileage you going to get out of that thing on this trip?” I do not think he thought it would do very well since it was a Jeep and 4 wheel drive. Well to tell you the truth, it did OK. It wasn’t great but it wasn’t bad either. But I was on the path now to figure out how to get the best fuel mileage out of this 4 wheel drive Jeep! And I did.

I did all sorts of things to help with the fuel mileage.

  • First, fluid change. Everything went synthetic and when I say everything, I mean everything (except power steering).
  • Next, a good fuel system cleaning. I had a buddy at Jiffy Lube who did the fluid change/flush and fuel system cleaning. I currently like and use Lucas Fuel Cleaner/Lubricant.
  • Next, a good air filter. I went with K/N OEM fit. That is really all they had back then. I would now go with a cold air intake.
  • Next, Spark Plugs. In this vehicle I put the Bosh Platinum 4s.
  • Tire Pressure. You have to become obsessed with checking your tire pressure. If one tire is low, not only will it wear funny causing all sorts of issues but will decrease your fuel mileage. When the temperature outside drops below freezing you will lose tire pressure. Be sure to check your tire pressure, it is vitally important in the winter.
  • Keep your vehicle clean and waxed. Aero dynamics. Also, keep the goofy flags and other things people hang from their vehicle off.

Why did I list all these things out? This is why, people ask me all the time what can I do to increase my fuel mileage? This is a great question with the cost of fuel these days. The problem is most people want the one thing they can do one time and be done. Well there is not just one thing you do one time and you’re done. It is consistent care with all the above. Doing just one thing may not make a noticeable difference but doing the entire list above can make a difference and also increase the life of your vehicle. A win, win all around.

The Jeep

  • Before – 14mpg in town and 18-19mpg on hwy
  • After – 18mpg in town and 25mpg on hwy

Now you are probably wondering what does this have to do with God, church, ministry or just life? Another good question. I am also sold out to the fact of maintaining my walk with God. I want to be ready and willing to be used by God to do whatever He has called me to do. That means I have to stay tuned up so that God can get maximum, effective use of me. So many times I meet with people and it is very evident that they are not getting maximum fuel mileage out of their walk with God. I hear things like, I am so tired, I do not have time for that stuff, I would like to do that but we have so many other things going on that I do not have time.

So here are Dave’s tips for maintaining your walk with God.

  • Stay in the Word, Bible. Daily read your Bible. Read it expecting the Holy Spirit to reveal and fill you with the refreshing truth of God’s Word. Just like taking a drink of water, read God’s Word. Just last night I made some popcorn. We use a hot air popper so we can control the salt and butter we put on. After having some I needed a drink of water because of the salt. Before going out in the world each day take a drink from God’s Word. Get filled with His truth and be refreshed by His Word. Do not go out and get dehydrated by the world that is looking for you to be unhealthy and unable to be ready to be used by God.
  • Pray – Stay connect to God through prayer. Have a healthy prayer life. I cannot imagine going through my day and not talking with anyone. If you know me, I am a talker. So I cannot imagine going through my day without praying and talking with my God. Take prayer beyond the mechanical and make it relational. Talk with God expecting Him to speak back.
  • Church – Attend a great Bible teaching and believing church. Go there so you can grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord & Savior and so that you can learn to love your neighbor as yourself. Worship and serve with other believers.
  • Serve God by serving others – So often the Christian life becomes a self-absorbed life. You just come and take in, never giving out. Overtime one becomes discontent with where they are and can turn bitter. “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms.” 1 Peter 4:10. Serving God by serving others keep your focus off yourself and puts it on God.
  • Pick and choose what you will do. We so many times get caught up doing so many good things that we do not leave room for the great things. As for my wife and I, we choose to limit our kids’ involvement in sports and other non-church/God related activities. Yes our kids played soccer, volley ball, karate, drama, band and orchestra. All those activities were divided between our 2 kids, not just one. But we left time for my wife, kids and I all served in our church. Chris led the Christian group at his school and taught the 3 yrs. old class at Sunday School. Tasha served with the little ones where ever needed. They both would come to the camp I led to serve. Limit the good things to be able to do the great things. The things that make an eternal difference in people’s life.

There is not just one thing you can do to get maximum fuel mileage out of your walk with God. It takes all the above and a commitment to stick with the above to accomplish it. It is not just a one-time do and be done, it is becoming abscessed or as I like to say OCD about it. It takes work staying on track.

So as the New Year comes I want to challenge you to stay tuned up and maximize your walk with God. Then when He speaks to you and challenges you to do something beyond you, you say “I am the Lord’s servant,” … “May it be to me as you have said.” Luke 1:38

Just like the question my Father-in-law asked me, I will now ask you… “What kind of fuel mileage are you going to get out of your walk with God?”








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